It's different, this being an adult thing. I'm 28 and I'm just realising the burden of adulthood, mainly because I've gone at least twice around the block in this child-adult (too hard)-child-adult (forced) cycle. Yes yes, we all have to be adults some time, but can we do without the judging?
Personally, I am guilty of judging, especially in matters where I have a chip (or rather block) on my shoulder. The times when I am more rational, I choose to digest what I see and hear and take things at face value first - no judging, as long as no daggers are hurled at me, I'm fine.
This attitude, thank God, has given me many wonderful experiences. There was that one girl who people thought was ditzy, who turned out to be my conscience and a treasure trove of trivia. There was this one guy who is horribly eccentric (not unlike that Jack Nicholson in 'As Good As It Gets'), who turned out to be one of the most loyal friends I could hope to have.
First impressions count, to a certain extent, but what value do we get by judging at first sight? We fall in love and think that this must be IT, we meet kindred spirits and think it will be the friendship that lasts for all time. This I see as a human failing, we are impatient with our life experiences when instead, we should take a deep breath and see ourselves and our lives as objectively as we would read a book.
For me at least, I do not regret taking the scenery of my life as I would a good cup of coffee. Small sips, letting the thick dark liquid roll around in my mouth and slide down my throat, and allowing for maximum surface exposure of the coffee to my tastebuds. Once all this is settled, then I draw my conclusions. Snail speed and not so net-ready, which convinces me even further that my destined path in life is as a (wireless-connected) hermit in a cave (or rather seaside cottage) sipping a very strong cup of Turkish coffee.
Being an adult, as I have learned (and am still learning) is about making decisions, that while there are some things we need to be patient with, there are some which we may not have the strength to swallow. Wisdom is in knowing which goes where.
Funny how when we think we have figured things out, it's almost time to go.
Posted by Najah Nasseri at 2003年11月14日 17:05 | TrackBackHey Najah,
Deep thoughts, will mull on it tonight. Printed ur page out. Hugs.. Miss ya
See Ming
28 is prime of a girl, and it may be best to maintain that child-adult balance throughout life.
Posted by: bill at 2003年11月14日 19:32You are a person that people take for nothing less and nothing more.
Balance is on your palm dear Najah.
Zarique.
Posted by: Zarique at 2003年11月14日 20:02Adulthood and maturity grows in parallel rail-road track. Wisdom is the stones and wood that binds adulthood and maturity together.
Never trust an eccentric "guy"!
Posted by: Abg Piah at 2003年11月15日 00:37Hey Najah, guess what? God has given us the greatest gift of em all. Akal. Know what is so great about it? It give us the ability to think or at the very least, ponder about anything and everything. From the smallest, insignificant matter to the most mind boggling things.
Given only a short amount of time to actually be able to think straight (i.e. probably after 21 years old till now), we can only expect to be naive and judgmental about anything.
So don't fret. It's part of life. 28 is a nice age to make silly mistakes. Give another couple more years, you'll be different. A whole lot different. Better, that is.
Cheers.
Posted by: Faris at 2003年11月15日 01:31yeap, agree.
I am a self-confessed "judgmentalist". There are many times my first impressions hit back hard at me....meanwhile, some first impressions that I chose to ignore/abandon turns out to be gospel truth...so, it is still worth taking them into consideration, it is just being careful.... am always prepared to be pleasantly surprised..
propz for "destined path in life is as a (wireless-connected) hermit in a cave ".
is there like a blog-awards thingie out there? u deserve to win one.