After being thoroughly appalled at the extremes some would go to for lust, I wondered, how far would one go for love?
It's funny that once in love, those things that we think of as unthinkable when we're not head over heels suddenly become possible, as well as plausible. Going back to the secret rituals of traditional Malay society, there are many examples of what people will do for love.
One shouldn't be surprised that urban and educated Malay men today still trade phone numbers of bomohs who have been successful in facilitating the smooth progression of their marriages - mostly through amulets or chants that seems to allow them to exert control over their wives - a practice known as menundukkan isteri.
Womenfolk are not that helpless - the use of Nasi Kangkang, the practice of tainting rice cooked for the husband by squatting over it (plus some other stuff of course), in hopes of controlling him, and curbing any potential extra-curricular activities, have become a popular 'just in case' story among close circle of friends.
[Interesting to note that Nasi Kangkang shows up as a Nyonya practice.]
I have heard stories of people whose affections are so coveted that their homes are riddled with inexplicable blood marks on their walls, that things are planted in their homes, that spirits are sent to torment them, in hopes that they yield their ever-so unwilling hearts.
Without going into the halal and haram of it all, the question that needs to be asked is: Isn't love a two-way street? Why should one's heart be forced to go somewhere it doesn't want to?
Posted by Najah Nasseri at 2003年08月18日 17:40 | TrackBackBecause love can also be a jealous, angry beast. Some people twist love, force it to bend, to conform to their desires, and it turns ugly.
I liken it to man diverting a river's course.
(shrugs)
Posted by: Ash.ox at 2003年08月18日 18:33It's true.
I don't believe in forcing anyone into anything. But needless to say there are so many people who will resort to these kinds of things.
hell hath no fury like a woman scorned?
Not only in love too.... other things as well.
Which makes me say, Only in Malaysia....... you don't like someone and see a bomoh, burn something, say soemthing, plant it in their yard......
INSTA-SLAVE, or
Death.
Whichever comes first?
Posted by: meesh at 2003年08月18日 19:26Whatever the reason maybe ... be it jealousy, unfairness ... hitting below the belt is still just what hitting below the belt is .. cowardly !!
Posted by: OldMan at 2003年08月18日 23:44masalah sihir ni masalah lama dah. orang tak paham kesan sihir pd pengamalnya. manusia duk tengok jangka masa pendek.
Posted by: nazmi at 2003年08月19日 02:18I would try everything (legal of course) until she tells me to f**k off
Posted by: Loveless at 2003年08月19日 04:44Some people are so desperate to hang on to their loved ones they resort to almost anything! Perhaps they should look at themselves in the mirror first? "Why has the love gone? Is it me or is it her?"
Posted by: khalilur at 2003年08月19日 08:34khalilur, eventhough if it is us, then what? should we just surrender? let it go and always wonder 'what if'?
Posted by: Loveless at 2003年08月19日 16:03When the charm counters back, then they will know death is such a pain. I have a friend whom I suspect past away because of these charms, let's hope the sender will live a horrible life, even beyond Doomsday.
Posted by: vladimir slovak at 2003年08月19日 17:46These things happen a lot in my hometown, or rather home state. Some people just don't know a "no" when they see one.
"If you love someone, let him/her go. If he/she comes back to you, then you are meant to be together. If not, then it was never meant to be".
Or something like that lah.
Posted by: sarini at 2003年08月19日 19:35